To my followers, my friends - Goodbye, take care!
Thursday, August 27, 2009
Explanation......and rather a long one too!
Assalamuaalykum,
To everyone who left comments on my last post i think you all deserve an explanation at the least, as this has come out of the blue.
I cant be exactly who I want because i am worried about being found out, the thing is i think about consequences, but there is nothing that people can actually do to me apart from give me the cold shoulder and for what? writing what I feel due to their actions....but it still bothers me. There is so much That I have in this heart of mine and I want to talk about it on my blog but the thing is it will give me away, I don't know who will be reading it. I get mini heart attacks when I see people from my neighbouring town visit...I just don't know what to do!
I have met so many diverse people on my blog, I have muslims and non muslims, I have make up artists, reverts, from so many backgrounds and if you know me then you will know I admire people who have reverted to Islam......so amazing, belly dancers, other religious groups, teenagers, mums and a few male readers too, and I think it is wonderful, I love variety and diversity, and without this blog I would not have met anybody. I did not think for a minute when I started writing this blog to myself that I would meet so many wonderful people. That is the disadvantage of going private. I really love my readers, some of the advice given believe it or not I have followed. There are some beautiful people that I have grown to love who have followed me on my journey, it has been around about 8 months I think could be 9. This blog has helped me vent my anger and refresh my mind, by writing and reading I am stopping my mind from turning into mush. I felt so down writing what i did yesterday and believe me your comments were so touching and I almost wanted to say....stop im not going anywhere!
I myself had thought when Sarah from faith in writing had said a while back that she was going to close her blog, how horrible i would feel if Sarah were to do that, and then I was thinking of other sisters that I have grown close to how I would hate it if they suddenly said good bye. ....I hate goodbyes....
My time at my mums is nearing its end and I feel sick at the thought of having to go back to my in laws house, how can I explain the feeling to you : dread, queasiness, sorrow. I know I will just fall into my stupid depression, I have enjoyed just writing normal nice things and going back there, you sisters will only find me blogging about depressing mundane things... ( see I think about your welfare)
The above things have been on my mind for a long time but yesterday I had no intention of saying what I did, when I woke up in the morning.............then i started to read some peoples blogs etc that are not on my blog list and I wish i never had stepped out of my little circle, because as I kept going I was shocked to say the least about what people were saying, it disillusioned me to hear what muslims were saying about fellow muslims.
Okay I believe that on your own blog you have the right to say what you want, people can like it or lump it, on the same reasoning I believe that people have the right to respond to something as they please, whether its liked or not, but to have someone ripped apart, I cant deal with, to have someone call someone disgusting names is atrocious. I felt really really upset, especially since I knew and like the person in question, it really hurt to read and may Allah give her the strength to stay strong.
I wish I could write freely to you all without the worry, I want to tell you all how everything happened what made me this person that I am. Do you sisters understand my dilemma? I do want to write....but i want to write without editing, i want to write uncut versions. .... please advise me what the best approach is. I will however be taking a break from it just till I can feel good about the whole blogging world. I am so so so sorry to my recent followers on this blog and my health blog, who have joined and now Im going, please hang on until I have cleared my head a bit. Just want you to know I LOVE YOU ALL, warts and all :)
To everyone who left comments on my last post i think you all deserve an explanation at the least, as this has come out of the blue.
I cant be exactly who I want because i am worried about being found out, the thing is i think about consequences, but there is nothing that people can actually do to me apart from give me the cold shoulder and for what? writing what I feel due to their actions....but it still bothers me. There is so much That I have in this heart of mine and I want to talk about it on my blog but the thing is it will give me away, I don't know who will be reading it. I get mini heart attacks when I see people from my neighbouring town visit...I just don't know what to do!
I have met so many diverse people on my blog, I have muslims and non muslims, I have make up artists, reverts, from so many backgrounds and if you know me then you will know I admire people who have reverted to Islam......so amazing, belly dancers, other religious groups, teenagers, mums and a few male readers too, and I think it is wonderful, I love variety and diversity, and without this blog I would not have met anybody. I did not think for a minute when I started writing this blog to myself that I would meet so many wonderful people. That is the disadvantage of going private. I really love my readers, some of the advice given believe it or not I have followed. There are some beautiful people that I have grown to love who have followed me on my journey, it has been around about 8 months I think could be 9. This blog has helped me vent my anger and refresh my mind, by writing and reading I am stopping my mind from turning into mush. I felt so down writing what i did yesterday and believe me your comments were so touching and I almost wanted to say....stop im not going anywhere!
I myself had thought when Sarah from faith in writing had said a while back that she was going to close her blog, how horrible i would feel if Sarah were to do that, and then I was thinking of other sisters that I have grown close to how I would hate it if they suddenly said good bye. ....I hate goodbyes....
My time at my mums is nearing its end and I feel sick at the thought of having to go back to my in laws house, how can I explain the feeling to you : dread, queasiness, sorrow. I know I will just fall into my stupid depression, I have enjoyed just writing normal nice things and going back there, you sisters will only find me blogging about depressing mundane things... ( see I think about your welfare)
The above things have been on my mind for a long time but yesterday I had no intention of saying what I did, when I woke up in the morning.............then i started to read some peoples blogs etc that are not on my blog list and I wish i never had stepped out of my little circle, because as I kept going I was shocked to say the least about what people were saying, it disillusioned me to hear what muslims were saying about fellow muslims.
Okay I believe that on your own blog you have the right to say what you want, people can like it or lump it, on the same reasoning I believe that people have the right to respond to something as they please, whether its liked or not, but to have someone ripped apart, I cant deal with, to have someone call someone disgusting names is atrocious. I felt really really upset, especially since I knew and like the person in question, it really hurt to read and may Allah give her the strength to stay strong.
I wish I could write freely to you all without the worry, I want to tell you all how everything happened what made me this person that I am. Do you sisters understand my dilemma? I do want to write....but i want to write without editing, i want to write uncut versions. .... please advise me what the best approach is. I will however be taking a break from it just till I can feel good about the whole blogging world. I am so so so sorry to my recent followers on this blog and my health blog, who have joined and now Im going, please hang on until I have cleared my head a bit. Just want you to know I LOVE YOU ALL, warts and all :)
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Au revoir
Assalamualikum sisters,
I hope that everyone is well, Thank you to everyone who has found me and followed me through my life's trial, I appreciate all the comments, the prayers, the advice that my sisters have taken time to give to me and I have come to become very fond of each of you. But I am at a point in my life where I am unsure about who I am and what I want to do with my life... i am unsure about this blogging world, where people end up misunderstanding others, myself included, because things are taken in the wrong way or said without much thought attached, but meaning no harm. I want to say goodbye to you all, and that I have enjoyed knowing you, - I want to discover who I am and what I stand for, I have to face my fears and my insecurities and most of all I want to workout out how to be a Good muslim, a good wife and mother. I dont know if i want to make this a permanent goodbye or a temporary break, I will think about it and get back to you all Inshallah Tonight after I break my fast and relax and think over things.
lots of love, duaas and best wishes
Queen
I hope that everyone is well, Thank you to everyone who has found me and followed me through my life's trial, I appreciate all the comments, the prayers, the advice that my sisters have taken time to give to me and I have come to become very fond of each of you. But I am at a point in my life where I am unsure about who I am and what I want to do with my life... i am unsure about this blogging world, where people end up misunderstanding others, myself included, because things are taken in the wrong way or said without much thought attached, but meaning no harm. I want to say goodbye to you all, and that I have enjoyed knowing you, - I want to discover who I am and what I stand for, I have to face my fears and my insecurities and most of all I want to workout out how to be a Good muslim, a good wife and mother. I dont know if i want to make this a permanent goodbye or a temporary break, I will think about it and get back to you all Inshallah Tonight after I break my fast and relax and think over things.
lots of love, duaas and best wishes
Queen
Tuesday, July 21, 2009
THE BANGLADESHI WIFE WORKOUT!
Remember when i took off all my posts, i was looking back and look what i found my very own personal workout ....Do you remember this........if you missed it first time round then here give it a go it really works!!
The Bangladeshi wife workout
Want to lose the flab? want to look like a yummy mummy? well don't fret the
BANGLADESHI WIFE WORKOUT is the answer to all your prayers! no need to go to the gym, no need to buy expensive equipment as long as you are in a traditional Bangladeshi household you will find everything at home!
Equipment Needed:
1)To tone upper arms and tummy:
this ancient method of grinding spices will ensure that your upper arms are super toned, place spices in the middle, take a deep breath and grind!( this needs to be done on a daily basis for maximum results)
2)Muscle building and toning lower arm
pound away at a mortar full of garlic, make sure that the metal pestle you ar
e using is of a very heavy weight, this will act as dumbbells as you lift and drop. This also doubles as a stress buster.
3)Thighs, lower abdomen and calves
To obtain those perfect legs, randomly sit on the floor and touch your in laws feet then get up and repeat for each family member that is older than you in age rem
ember to hold your breath each time you down this helps to 1) tone your pelvic muscles 2) relieves from the stench of unclean feet.
4)Stomach toning;improving muscular endurance and strength
For this next step you need to be residing not only with an extended family but an extended tribe, to ensure that food is cooked for the masses, hence our third piece of apparatus a large pan and spoon, this is an all over body workout, particularly targeting the shoulders, arms and torso.this also helps blood circulation. keep
stirring the pan until your hands feel numb and then switch hands, make sure you stand next to the pot, this will burn more calories than sitting. two hours of this will ensure your body fit.
5)Circuit Training
Feeding inlaw children along with that of your own is an exercise that will keep your heart rate raised, feed a child until it can no longer move, then go
on to the next making sure to run inbetween plate refills, this is particularly good for improving stamina.
6)Posture
your inlaws are your exercise buddies, therefore you will find that them supporting you with leaving their plates, glasses on the kitchen sink. This next exercise requires good posture so make sure you are standing properly, shoulders bac
k. remember to tuck your tummy and you are weeks away from achieving your dream body. Wash systematically and don't fret if the load seems to be decreasing your exercise buddies will try their utmost to keep bringing you more.
7)Toning lower thighs and buttocks
Once your exercise buddies have eaten, slept and on the whole helped you by trashing your dwelling you are ready for your last exercise but by no means least! use a half working vacuum cleaner (a new cleaner is not good as it will mea
n using less calories) vacuum the room then go back and do it with a dust pan and brush, this again will improve stamina and also tones the calves, thighs and buttocks.
beauty benefits
No need to spend money on expensive exfoliaters! When number 6 has been performed on a regularly basis, you should see a noticeable difference in the condition of your hands, namely the palm. when they start looking very dry and rough, you can then use them to exfoliate your face ( rub your face in a circular motion with your palms) and thus revealing a cleaner more radiant you.
note: please seek medical advice before undergoing any of the above.
The Bangladeshi wife workout
Want to lose the flab? want to look like a yummy mummy? well don't fret the
BANGLADESHI WIFE WORKOUT is the answer to all your prayers! no need to go to the gym, no need to buy expensive equipment as long as you are in a traditional Bangladeshi household you will find everything at home!
Equipment Needed:
- 1 grumpy father in law
- 1 control freak mother in law
- couple of lazy sister/brother in laws
- a few children ( some of them can be your own but add a few of the in laws to get maximum benefit)
- stone grinder
- metallic garlic crusher
- Pots and pans with wooden stirring instruments ( can be obtained in various sizes, for maximum results use the largest available)
- hoover ( preferably an old one that does not work properly so that you need to redo the job again with a dustpan and brush)
1)To tone upper arms and tummy:
this ancient method of grinding spices will ensure that your upper arms are super toned, place spices in the middle, take a deep breath and grind!( this needs to be done on a daily basis for maximum results)
2)Muscle building and toning lower arm
pound away at a mortar full of garlic, make sure that the metal pestle you ar
e using is of a very heavy weight, this will act as dumbbells as you lift and drop. This also doubles as a stress buster.
3)Thighs, lower abdomen and calves
To obtain those perfect legs, randomly sit on the floor and touch your in laws feet then get up and repeat for each family member that is older than you in age rem
ember to hold your breath each time you down this helps to 1) tone your pelvic muscles 2) relieves from the stench of unclean feet.
4)Stomach toning;improving muscular endurance and strength
For this next step you need to be residing not only with an extended family but an extended tribe, to ensure that food is cooked for the masses, hence our third piece of apparatus a large pan and spoon, this is an all over body workout, particularly targeting the shoulders, arms and torso.this also helps blood circulation. keep
stirring the pan until your hands feel numb and then switch hands, make sure you stand next to the pot, this will burn more calories than sitting. two hours of this will ensure your body fit.
5)Circuit Training
Feeding inlaw children along with that of your own is an exercise that will keep your heart rate raised, feed a child until it can no longer move, then go
6)Posture
your inlaws are your exercise buddies, therefore you will find that them supporting you with leaving their plates, glasses on the kitchen sink. This next exercise requires good posture so make sure you are standing properly, shoulders bac
k. remember to tuck your tummy and you are weeks away from achieving your dream body. Wash systematically and don't fret if the load seems to be decreasing your exercise buddies will try their utmost to keep bringing you more.
7)Toning lower thighs and buttocks
Once your exercise buddies have eaten, slept and on the whole helped you by trashing your dwelling you are ready for your last exercise but by no means least! use a half working vacuum cleaner (a new cleaner is not good as it will mea
n using less calories) vacuum the room then go back and do it with a dust pan and brush, this again will improve stamina and also tones the calves, thighs and buttocks.
beauty benefits
No need to spend money on expensive exfoliaters! When number 6 has been performed on a regularly basis, you should see a noticeable difference in the condition of your hands, namely the palm. when they start looking very dry and rough, you can then use them to exfoliate your face ( rub your face in a circular motion with your palms) and thus revealing a cleaner more radiant you.
note: please seek medical advice before undergoing any of the above.
Subscribe to:
Posts (Atom)
