salam hope all is well with everyone.
In the uk they are airing this docu/drama it is basically a fly on the wall about a asian family and their day to day lives. last weeks episode saw the family receive the news that their pregnant daughter who had her scan and was told she was having a boy. I loved the reaction to the news, they were all crying their eyes out and thanking God...( they already have a little girl) i was wondering whether it would have been the same reaction if they had a boy and recieved news that it was a girl???
bangladeshi families love their boys, you really have achieved something if you have given birth to a penis!!! i can remember once my fil almost jumped out of his skin when he received news of his daugter giving birth to a boy...and to top it off he was white!
if you hear of them talk about a particular person.... she has three daughters with a hint of sadness ...but three boys...how lucky she was to be blessed with 3 boys.
Funny thing is every boy in this family has left their parents ( with the exception of my hub!)
so much for the son taking care of them in their old age and providing for them...WAKE UP!
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The same issue with Arabs. I have no brothers and people till think my dad should remarry to have a boy. It's sad. God gave him my sisters and I but still to his family back over seas we aren't enough.
I will truly honestly be happy with whatever i have. The only reason i'm looking forward to having a son is because my little brother and i get along especially well. But my in laws keep saying that inshallah i have a son first. It pisses me off because i know its not that they have a special bond that makes them want that- its just because they think its better. I kind of wish i will have a daughter first inshallah....idk either way its ok with me but i just wish i could just shove it in their faces. There is no point though, because they are ignorant in that regard.
So in the end lol, inshallah i will have a healthy baby. A healthy healthy healthy baby inshallah AMEEN!
we don't have that issue in our family. we love kids regardless...
as salamu alaikum
in my family in law everyone hopes ill get a girl :) They r all egyptians btw.
iam pregnant now in the 3 month and the only one among all of us who wants a boy is my husband. But infact he wants twins :)
4 me, i want a girls bcz mostly they r less stressy and i just love 2 dress them :)
@my getaway....
it really doesnt suprise me that they think that way it really is a sad state of affairs.
albaster -i hope that Allah grants you beautiful healthy children both boys and girls.yes if you had a boy first i think that the pressure would be off you. Ameen to your duas.
@marjnhomer - that is unusual for a bangladeshi family having said that do you have boys? i think if you your self have boys you may not have experienced it. just an assumption, or maybe your family actually realises that everything comes from Allah and are not so narrow minded, may Allah gives all this knowledge.
mimisha - i am glad that you are not experiencing anything negative in terms of what gender the child may be. i think when it is a first child they are not so concerned about the gender its when you have a 2nd or 3rd daughter in a row then comments start. inshallah i hope that you never experince any negativity and may Allah bless you with both boys and girls that are healthy and well. stay well.
There is no preference of gender in my family. Though generally in the Sri Lankan culture boys are preferred to girls.
How are your in-laws's relationship with their other daughter in laws?
It' so sad this prevails in many asian countries..Thank God my parents were equally happy with their seven daughters and a son.
hi there mondugibaby....
the relationship with all the others is just the same, it just depends who is willing to take their nonsense i guess.
aynzan,
i was wondering when the boy came a long? did they try for a boy?
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