okay so this new thing of mine to match whatever bull i am given is still hardwork, though i am not sitting back and taking it all, it still doesnt make it any easier to digest.
after spending a few days at my mums i come back to this
fil: ( To my kids) so what did your grandma feed you...no doubt you will have eaten in english shops...
me: no not only did we eat in the english shops we slept there too, spent our entire time there
fil..looks at me confused, and then realises i am being sarcastic, yes no doubt you will have had outside food, probably lived on junk
me: of course we did not eat proper food at all just pure junk
fil: yeah you ate a load of junk that was a mixture of halaal and haraam..
at this point my blood started to boil..
me: yes of course...but i made sure that the majority was haraam food that we consumed and we ate a bit of halaal here and there
fil silent
i continued in english to my kids, " did you hear that grandad says that we are haraam people he says that we eat haraam"
my child is upset "but mummy we dont eat haraam food"
I know we dont baby but this is what your grandad is saying
WTH!!!! what is the need for this? he meakes me crazy really crazy and i hate him, he is actually insulting my parents by saying that they allow and are feeding us harraam food.
i was so mad about this that i called my fil something not very nice infront of my hub....mu hub said nothing. i apologised to my hub afterwards but i told him that these games that his father plays are affecting me mentally.
anyways the next day when i am given breakfast my fil is standing next to me, and i say to my kids in english ...according to your grandad we just eat haraam stuff so lets see what there is....i know this is terrible its given mixed messages to my kids but its all because of that idiot i was seething. i did take my kids aside and explained as best as i could what had happened between me and their grandad, i told them that it hurts me when people say that i eat haraam food, as Allah does not want us to....that i never eat haraam food, but their grandad is not being nice and saying things that he should not.
i haver lost any ounce of respect taht i had for him, and i am keeping out his way.
4 comments:
Salams Queen. Wow he is something else. It seems to me he hates for you and your kids to feel happy so he always tries to bring you all down. Could he be jealous or something? Anyways I'm glad you are actually standing up for yourself. Hopefully he will stop being so mean.
sweet escape:
i really hope that he wil stop this mental torture too.cuz it gets too much for me, please pray for me hun, need all the prayers that i can get.
Wow your fil is really mean and totally weird. Whats his obsession with haram food anyway!
At some point you'll have to come to a conclusion about your living situation with him. It's unhealthy for you and your kids to be in that environment 24/7. And old people are pretty hard to change.
Inshallah hope all goes well. Will pray for you sis. Till then, just ask Allah for strength, guidance and patience.
tell him that this is negatively effecting his grand kids which in long term will be a problem for his son , so he is willingly or unwillingly creating problems for his son.
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