Disgusting behaviour!

hi everyone hope that all is well, been occupying myself with a few things lately, which hasnt ciome without its disapproval.

these are just random incidents that i am gonna rant about firstly
About two months ago i started to teach my kids Arabic. so After school, after they had eaten, played for a bit i would sit with them for an hour.....it is difficult enough teaching kids and with the TV blasting in the background, i dont know about you but that is no teaching environment, they just dont care! anyways i did this for a week, and I started to get really angry, if you can see that I am teaching then surely have the courtesy of taking the tv off or if that is so bad at least have the volume down. so yeah it was getting pretty riduculous and i gave up just couldnt take it anymore. After two months of no teaching them , my fil enquired, why have you stopped teaching them, its because of this new hobby of yours right ( i had only been occupied with this hobby for the last two three days , ...i turned around and said not nicely...( yes i think i am beginning to develop a back bone) ...as a matter of fact i havent taught them in the last two months, "why" he enquired...because of that tv it is difficult to concentrate when the tv is on i dont like it, makes me mad....oh we will put the tv off when you need to taech them. mil goes no it ibetter that you take them to your bedroom to teach.....(what the hell, there is no space )unless we sit on the bed. .....okay so after this i thoughht so now they kniow.

After two days of this converstaion, i sit with my kids and we start with our reading, the tv is off, fil comes into the room, and goes oh are you teaching them...thats good, and guess what he does switches the bloody tv on....i mean what the hell!!!!! i get so angry i just cant take it that i tell the kids to pack it all in!

my mil, has never had a nice thing to say about anything i do, she is getting cranky everyday, i hate it she has these bouts of giving me silence treatment, which use to make me so uncomfortable that i would try my best to get back in her good books, no more .....i have had enough. Her daughter really annoyed me the other day and i told mil this that she was being unreasonable, she wanted me to ferry her around even though i had things of my own to do, and not forgetting my kids, anyway as usual sil got her own way and mil stopped talking to me. At first i tried to make light conversation but realised she had gone in a mood and thought to myself enough is enough. I gave her a dose of her own treatment and completely ignored her like she wasnt even in the room, i just got on with my things without even looking in her direction. and guess what it worked she started talking to me again. She did this to me again yesterday, i was a little delayedin warming up her food, ( i had gone in the kitchen before her though) as i started warming stuff up, she goes ill do it myself and took the pan off me.....there was really no need for that. You see the food should have been warmed before she stepped foot in the kitchen...i tlooked at her and said okay with an attitude. so again came the silenece treatment, and so I played her game, and guess what she is back to normal.

she never gives me compliments in anything that i do or cook. Yesterday she made some sort of pudding and she was asking if it was nice to me and some one else that was present. I didnt say anything at all, the otgher lady did. You see I wasnt bitter, i was a nice person, but i realised you have to play there game there way or you get no where in life.

NEVER AGAIN!

Wow ! what a weekend, and all for the wrong reasons, mental note to self NEVER go to an event with inlaws when you could have sat at home, yes sitting at home is better than going with them anywhere!
they just kept on going with the comments and about everything, you see one comment is fine, 2 okay bearable, but constant nit picking can actually drive you crazy! Nothing is good enough! the best part is I am just getting on with MY life, THEIR way but still its not enough, I get on with things and then they upset me with their comments and then have the nerve to ask why I am down, i think it is guilt on their part, so why say those things in the first place.

Anyway I am gonna disappear for a while to my private blog, so InshaAllah I hope to catch up with people soon.

Update....

Assalamualikum,
its been a while since i last wrote, and there have been many ups and downs as what makes life. This post is to say that I am gonna be writing in my private blog for a while, just want to deal with some ghosts from the past, which i cant do on this public blog. A few of you have asked about my private blog, if you write to me at Bangladeshiwife@live.co.uk and please tell me where you are from, InshaAllah I will take it from there and if everything goes well then InshaAllah you will get a email from me. I will be writing here again soon InshaAllah, hope all is well with everyone. xxxx